if he's cheating make him spaghetti voodoo

My therapist observed that I had been hoping and waiting for him to change. Dad is a little out of touch. For 17 years she was a stay home mother/wife. I myself sometimes feel I need to vent becasue I been through so much but my prayers go out to all the people who been with an N and that’s with an N. Please get out now before you destroy and mess up your life and happiness becasue all those N want to do is destroy you and half the time if your beautiful independent and got a lot going for yourself they would definitely do they best to mess up your entire your life just for the thrill and they won’t care at all or feel bad this is a game to them and once your in it. I didn’t know about NPD then nor no contact. So we kissed and planed on eating something , i told him i was craving something sweet . Two years later came her breast augmentation with some of my savings, and then I got her a job with my agency. Literally was friends with him for 2 years. You see they have been doing this for a long time and they know what to say and do to get you back where they want to !!! I was told by a family member today, (he doesn’t know her), that he texted her Happy Thanksgiving. Last year he would pretend to be concerned, but he was being nosy, so I had my mother tell him I have a boyfriend to stop his spying, this year hes going nuts, and he told my mother he wants me to drop it. This reaction formation helps him deal with and manage his own inner-conflict, and by being so openly and forcefully opposed to cheating, he's trying to convince others, as well as himself, that he's not really a cheater. wow I am amazed there are other horrible men out there praying on loving, caring and loyal people like us. How can someone say they are in love with you and be flirting on the side, hurting people to make themselves feel better. I didn’t want to go no contact but it’s the only way to get the spew of evil entangled free nothing else worked even we decided to go seperate ways he always had a way to drop in convo this would never happen if you never..(fill in gaps I’m sure you been there too). He would then say he sorry and that he going to change. I cannot get over the narcissist. Hope all have a positive outcome at the end of the day, and if it doesn’t happen, never give up. Mine just discarded me for new supply overnight. But I always came back. When I left He used pity. but i know u all got the picture-well keep posting Our back togetherness last 6 days. He’s continued to contact me but everything is :I’m praying for you” “you’re the best wife ever” “I’ll love you forever” Then he acts like he doesnt understand why I cant trust him. Its crazy to be in love with someone who treats you that way, but don’t know how not to be. Please somebody help. Just stay away as much and long as you can and dont return their calls if ever any narc calls you cuz it ll make you go all the way back to the same old shit all over again! Clinically speaking, most narcissists aren’t curable. I have even disappeared- been in shelters. Yeah that means , he steals my car , pawns my valuables , has sex with me , and when our lights get turned off or my car gets repossessed …. Finally the last straw was Wed night after this past easter Sunday. You hopefully have moved on. I’ve been really busy lately and going through some stuff. I was so strong with the no contact for the first month then I gave in one night but I wasn’t nice at all. 4 months of dating and his mask came off, I found him to be an explosive, borderline alcoholic, an EXTREMELY emotionally abusive and manipulative partner… This entire article sounded like a conversation that just happened. Saved by the bell!!!!!! NO MORE!!! In my mind I asked myself .. Who says that??? Today I made the decision that I’m done for good. I had lost my patience at this point and snapped, then said, “I’m not you– you can’t just buy my respect back. So far, I have blocked tens of fake FB profiles, that I new it was him, because, each time the bastard would give me a clue, at some point. But I stayed NC. I come and read these articles and some how it reminds me of what I’m dealing with. I still can’t believe when I read things like this article how it reinforces all that has gone on as a narcissistic attack. Great post! I feel like I must be going crazy but then I read and so many people are describing what I am dealing with and feeling to a tee. Time and time again she would follow her ex on Instagram. I had proof and he was still lying. tried breaking up but fell for her pity me tricks. When i didn’t go with his plans, always centered around him, i would get berated with “thats why nobody likes you” and “you USED to be cool” kind of statements. 1) the real narc will find the counter technique very quick and will take u to another level of abuse. In the past I had never been able to go NC, we cross paths at work, I would eventually text him or fool myself into “c’mon, it’s just sex wit the ex, one last time”. by subjecting you to neglect and total indifference. Lol. DO. Court date is set to garnish wages, demand monthly payments or hold him in Contempt of Court and I’ve been holding on to the letter for a week cuz I don’t want to start the contact (game) again. Opinions expressed belong solely to the author and do not represent the views of other Members, Management, or the Community at large. It was recently posed to me that if character is defined by our actions, then my husband is, by default, a bad guy. Because of the way my phone is designed, texts from blocked contacts still hit my phone. Unfortunately he also told me that he has a job about 10 minutes from where I work. My ex who I think is a narc, turned up at my door this morning after 3 months of being split up. I am flabbergasted! Then he complains and says I haven’t done anything for his son.. Plus how can I when I never see him? I received Fb messages from women who claimed they were with my man. impossible by anyone on earth. As much as I know the truth of who he is, I saw him and felt all the love. And again if I am honest I want him to respond… I was doing so bloody well yes still hurt, still missing him, but feeling stronger and better every day and him knocking on my door has just thrown me straight back to 3 months ago…, Omg. Reading those Spaghetti Test excerpts sounded EXACTLY like the narc when I went no contact almost 2 years ago. But right then I got an email notification for something and then I looked at my other emails and saw this article!!!! Dont waste another 1 sec giving headspace to trash . It’s only been a week since he contacted me last but he must have a new supply because if he’s not bothering me he’s bothering someone else. (I broke up with her on a knee jerk reaction- ignoring me again and doing something to purposely hurt me) of course i told her i didn’t mean it)-so she probably thinks she did the breaking up). I was a daughter of a narc who taught me to be really tough, mentally. I have a NP for MIL and BIL. I told him thank you for proving to me once again who you really are. Ive been with an addict and narc for two years. He would try everything to get me back but luckily I was smart and strong enough to not go back and walk away. These are some reasons why he won't leave you alone. When she started to enact her plan, it went horribly awry and back fired in her face and of course she blamed me. I blocked her from everything after she yelled and belittled me.. My heart is broken because I tried to take the high road and not speak my truth…he is getting married in 3 months and He probably won’ t invite me. my life, my heart, my money, my self respect. May be if u know there is no hope for them to change and to know that they r not genuine in what they say , this will make u feel better and stronger She had to drill into my head that things were NEVER going to be different. I was debating whether or not to tell him that I was blocking him because I’ve had enough of this. The idealization/love-bombing phase, while fun, didn’t last more than about 5-6 weeks. Usually not in the slightest. I used to be able to move continually, but once I had children, I had to stay put and stable. One morning I was walking out the door for work and she got out of bed to hug me and wish me a safe day. Remember you deserve to be respected and you have a love in your heart and kindness that should be reserved for yourself now to build your strength and offered to others who don’t use it against you. You cave and open it up. And his number? played me against another woman. But I can still see he called. Just when No Contact was going so well & i was moving on. All the listed symptoms, definitions, and actions by a narcissist, fit her completely. i won’t say his name but he’s 6’5″ and will tell you he is studying for a PhD. All willing to engage respectfully are welcome. Good luck to you and thank god for this website! ( I have survived a smear campaign in the past – and I’m wondering what he will do to try to destroy my reputation AGAIN.) I oretty much have no friends left which to him is my fault. I have noticed with my narcissistic boyfriend over the weekend that he never apologized for him being a jerk. I ended it (the first time) after less than 3 months. This is better than he had hoped, now he’s got you engaging in a full-fledged conversation. Your poor brain was trained not to think about anything else, but him. Please Pray to GOD to set you free from this monster and he will !! Oh I might feel a difference for a while; but it would never truly be different. Thank you for telling the truth so that one more person sees they aren’t crazy and moves out of the dark and into a better life. After putting up with a lot of emotional abuse along with one scenario of physical where he pulled my hair n pulled me on the floor, I knew it wasn’t right and was only going to get worse and especially the day before I walked out he was going to treat me better n then the very next day argued with me about me something as stupid regarding the hot water bottles, there was so much I could say but I’d be writing a chapter book… I got my friends and packed up my things and moved out… I didn’t hear from him for a week after I left and I thought that was it. He faked his way into owning half a business then calls them useless they wouldn’t manage without him etc like he does every1 including his friends who were also useless who I never knew half of and his other boss he could do a better job etc he charms and lies his way around everyone and all believe him. I have been using the no contact rule for 2months and yes he tried all the tactics explained. It took 5 major breakups over 4 years for me to learn he would never change. You really should just stay no contact. We are about loving, encouraging, embracing, teaching, and building with black people. its my fault too. I know I have to leave because this relationship is by far the worst one I have ever been in my entire life; it is extremely unhealthy, he is incapable of change, & therefore the relationship has no future. He is a very evil person. Didnt wish her happy birthday for the first time like I always did nor congratulate her on her graduation from college. Oh, yeah. I took him back and spent a year flying to see him. Genuine people just say something like “That’s okay. Mel x, I know how u r feeling and I can relate cos I am in a situation like urs , but after sometime of ur ex trying to Hoover u , u will know well that it is just a way to discard u even faster Almost a year to the day of him leaving me, again, for a another woman and after 9 months of no contact. Now love yourself, treat yourself well with the compassion you probably feel for anyone but yourself. ... hysterectomy, tells me I have been places out of the country with other men. I’ve tried to make this work, I’ve worked my ass off for you and my daughter and this is what l get in return”. This article describes everything I have been experiencing to a T. As stated in the article, he keeps telling me I am the love of his life and my internal response is “you can’t possibly love me”. He will be 50 and still working low end jobs, on the prowl, hitting the gym, idealizing and discarding, never changing. Thank goodness for Web sites like these to help me think straight. He went to see a therapist but charmed his way out of it then just blamed me. Guess what? It was so hilariously transparent. Yesterday while I was reading this article (how timely!!!) So, we started another short-lived chain of texts. I know exactly what they are looking for and they won’t get it from me–been down that road. I realized he was very needy. Exactly a week ago today he would not stop facetiming me. She has never let go of me- I have been “no contact” for many years, but it does not matter. I’ve blocked him on Watts App but can’t block on normal messaging so I still wonder is this it? I do know that I will continue no contact as this is the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I so needed to see that today. Its not easy coming out of abusive N releationship and it really affects you mentally. I was no contact for over 9 months, he tried and he tried and I never responded. This somatic is doomed to a life of repetition. Don’t do it to yourself. I wasn’t flirting with other women. It all blew up ugly. I listened to her lies. Since then he had given me the silent treatment so many times I can’t count. well he starts a pretend fight, goes to stay with some girl until I get my It’s exhausting. It is how they want to live … the easy way .. blame you for all their drug and money problems but beg you to stay while hating you at the same time. My mind was blown. I won’t go into detail of what was done to me by the “N” word but in a nutshell, it consisted of crying myself to sleep with him right next to me, finding out he was advertising himself on Craigslist along with responding to adds and paying for sex. It’s been a year and he refuses to grant me the divorce and the mind games have become targeted to destroy me and isolate me from my support structure. EVER. I am now in no contact ( yes, we have all been there and fell for those irresistible hoovers) but this time after having studied narcissism ad nauseum – have made this the last one. He has had me to a point where I felt so weak, emotion all and crazy. For the last 6 months I have been getting mental health treatment and counseling to help me get strong enough to tell him to “f_ck off” Well I did and its been 8 days no contact. (She left her husband for him.). He gave it to me right before xmas and said it was my present…then invented things up and said I broke our love promise.Said he mailed me money and lied saying I was keeping that too. I went no contact with my narcissist boyfriend three days ago. I will smile again one day. I fell in love with his sense of humor and everything seemed so right in the beginning until a red flag came about. He cheated on me once and the second time I still think he did but he’s to this day denied this…. he chased.did no contact. Cheating is one of those topics that just won't go away. Search it up top on my site. Even being able to recognize he’s love bombing me isn’t enough, because I keep getting sucked back in! I went and took plan b. Very nice person. I was married to a Narc. This came in the nick of time..its been two weeks since I’ve heard from my N…and I’ve never felt better…a couple of weeks ago..he was doing the whole back and forth game with me and I had finally had enough..we have a child and I had asked him for something for her..he ignored me for days..so I blocked him from calling me..he started sending me emails..I sent them to my spam box..I didn’t respond until I saw a message where he said he had came by my house…I snapped on him but haven’t said any else to him because I don’t have nothing to say to him..yesterday I read this about 5 times..and this basically confirms everything..because in the past I fell for every hook he sunk into me but not anymore..like I said..I haven’t seen him in two weeks and I pray to God he stays away from me and my child..thanks for this post Savannah!!!!!!!! It’s like I’m a little scared of what will happen, and because deep down I still want him to want me. I picked this time (due to the coronavirus) knowing he would be going crazy with nothing to do. It was amazing to see the tactic switches happening… exactly as you described above. History and Culture of Benin Republic (Home of VooDoo), Fayetteville man with Voodoo beads again clashes with judge, Jimi Hendrix Experience - Voodoo Child (Slight Return), Presentation on Voodoo, on Haert of Mind now on WBAI, Erikah Badu; dropping Science at the Voodoo festival, New Orleans 2008, Obama reacts to Voodoo in the White House, Blaming 'voodoo' for throwing child down flight of stairs, White American Scientists Search for Secrets of Voodoo Medicine, My Mind Possess Voodoo 4 Jackasses & Roodipoo's, A theory that challenges Newton’s and Einstein’s gravity and nixes dark matter passed its first test, Eat tuna first then think universe and the earth It's leerie how the theory goes have plenty of fun, Lying White Liberals(2) - Evolution THEORY. My life changed for the better. I got out very quickly. 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